Beauty of relationships is their nurturing and fulfilling essence. We are naturally blessed with relationships the moment we are born. Parents, siblings, cousins, uncles, aunts, grandma, grandpa, teachers, friends and husband or wife all are precious relations offering us love, support, confidence, uplift, encouragement, appreciation, learning and strength.
In the Journey of life all have some role either big or small. Throughout the journey of life we face many situations in various relations of us for our own learning and strength, for our own self awakening but we hardly pay attention. We realize who we are and where we stand into others’ people lives from the Relations we maintain or come across the life span.
God and parents (mostly) offer unconditional loving i.e. without any expectations whereas every other relation somehow at one or different point of time ask or seek reciprocation (even they don’t say but this feeling deep down start growing in them that I have done this and You have done this). I am not placing this feeling at negative end as it’s quite human. We are human beings on a spiritual journey in this life.
If this is the way relations are then why and how comes a point that a poison keep on spreading in the life of relations slowly over a period of time?
Remember there is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
Things that drain you in a relationship:
- Negative talk, continued Negative words spoken by you or others around you.
- Doubts, assumptions and anger
- Facing judgements or passing judgements
- Disrespect and belittling others
- Resentment and not opening it out, holding the pain inside
- Lying and breaking promises
- Lack of appreciation in day to day matters
- Lack of patience
- Misunderstandings and not making effort to clarify Issues
- Blaming attitudes
Happy, healthy relationships are one of the greatest joys of life. Each and every one of us deserve to be with somebody who makes us smile – somebody who doesn’t take us for granted – somebody who won’t hurt us. REMEMBER each one of us needs to feel loved, needed, and cared for without any discrimination. Let us start showering more love to our relations truly without any feeling of burden, desperation and superiority.