Water your relations with purity, love, respect, understanding, and Acceptance and give your best, and see and enjoy the fruits of relationship. ~Tayyiba Iram~
Being human all of us might have watered positives and negatives emotions/feelings to our relationships at different times. We can change every bit of our relationship anytime whenever we are able to kill that part of us which says that yes I was right?
Positive feelings are love, understanding, respect, patience and acceptance whereas negative feelings are hatred, jealousy, anger and disrespect.
Our relationships are just like seeds. We are the gardener of these precious seeds. We harvest what we water our seeds most. Remember patience and love always go together.
The question is how we can save our seeds from negative waters and how can we reap the crop of love?
I think that first and foremost we should all be aware of ourselves and watch our own selves that what we are watering. We should also watch of other peoples’ behaviours which provoke us to water negative seeds. Within families we should communicate with family members that we will help each other water only positive seeds. Of course it can only be done when you and your family member or partner are ready to listen with heart and be more open and understanding.
We can add such a joy in our relationships by simply following these simple rules:
1. Our words are like ointments for our relationships. Always appreciate genuinely with purity. Words when expressed through genuine care undoubtedly touch souls of our dear ones. Always admire the good in them and make them realize how much you value them. Believe me it works wonders.
2. When you had consciously or unconsciously hurt them, do apologize. We don’t ask forgiveness coz we think it will make us feel small in their eyes. Do make some changes in future so that this hurt might not take place further. It will increase trust in relationship.
3. And then Also open yourself to the other person what caused hurt in you. Open with kindness and gentleness. Talk to them. But we should be careful that our dialogue should not become bitter session and blame or right/wrong game. First duty of love is to listen. Listen with care, with patience, with understanding. End this sharing with warm and loving hug. Witness smiles in hearts.
Lets experience joy in our relationships within families or friends. Love is all we have always.
